Does it seem like every time the two of you are together, you stay behind at your house or go to non-popular areas?
If you haven’t met any of his family or friends , I hate to break it to you, but that’s not a good sign. The guys who know what they want will show you off to their loved ones. They want their opinion, which is why you meet family and friends.
But if he’s going out of his way to make sure you’re not meeting anyone he knows, it’s clear he’s not ready for a relationship and doesn’t know what he wants.
Look, putting your dreams first isn’t a bad thing. But men and women are different. Men usually have a checklist of things they want to accomplish before they step into a serious relationship.
So, he may like you. But it could be he isn’t ready for a relationship yet because he hasn’t reached all his personal accomplishments.
That’s not to say you aren’t amazing (you are), but he’s focused on something else. No matter what you do, you’re not going to change his mind to want a relationship if he’s focused on his dreams.
If you’re in bed the majority of the time the two of you are together, this isn’t a good sign. It could be a classic friends with benefits thing, so you can expect that he’s really not interested in a relationship.
He may have someone else he’s interested in, or he may not. But he doesn’t know whether he wants to change the current predicament the two of you are in.
Someone who wants to be in a relationship is going to spend time getting to know you-outside of the bedroom. He should want to know your likes, dislikes, dreams, and desires.
Don’t get me wrong, no doubt your guy loves your strength and abilities to be independent. But he still wants to feel wanted and useful – not dispensable!
This is because men have a built-in desire for something “greater” that goes beyond love or sex. It’s why men who seemingly have the “perfect girlfriend” are still unhappy and find themselves constantly searching for something else – or worst of all, someone else.
Simply put, men have a biological drive to feel needed, to feel appreciated, and to provide for the woman he cares about.
As James Bauer argues, male desires are not complicated, just misunderstood. Instincts are powerful drivers of human behavior and this is especially true for how men approach their relationships.
You don’t need to pretend to be anyone you’re not or play the “damsel in distress”. You don’t have to dilute your strength or independence in any way, shape or form.
In an authentic way, you simply have to show your man what you need and allow him to step up to fulfill it.
In his new video, James Bauer outlines several things you can. He reveals phrases, texts and little requests that you can use right now to make him feel more appreciated.
By triggering this very natural male instinct, you’ll not only give him greater satisfaction but it will also help to rocket your relationship to the next level.
You’re the one putting in all the effort and planning. And when you do, he seems okay with it all. But when you don’t put in effort, you don’t hear from him.
As much as you’d like to be in a relationship with him, he clearly isn’t sure whether he wants to or not if he isn’t putting in the effort.